* Steve Duck's Filters*

In Steve Duck's Filtering Theory, he talks about, how we use a series of filters to judge how close to others we want to become. As for me, I do in fact filter out potential partners, maybe a little too much. Within time, is when you start to get a feel for a person and get more information from them, to decide to move on with them or not. Being a busy college student and a worker, time can be my worst enemy, when it comes to putting time aside for potential partner. So what I do is filter them out from basic foundations and what is really important to me, in which I'd like the other person to have as well. I like to think I live a balanced life and if someone seems to be out balanced in a certain aspect of their life such as; drinking too much, going clubbing too much or a gym rat is unattractive. Also, having a negative attitude, being a cussing sailor or being disrespectful is no good in my book. Duck's four filters, sociological or incidental, preinteraction, interaction and cognitive cues definitely made sense to me. For sociological, I do believe the location of each person can take a toll on the relationship after awhile. This one time, I tried to keep in touch with someone all the way in a different country, as he was traveling for work and it got to be too much, and it felt like just pen pals. Although I think long distance is possible, it just depends on the two people and what they are looking for. As far as preinteraction, everyone has their own preference and what their attracted to, it may be because, the person reminds us of a hot ex, a movie star or maybe even our dad's. (I read somewhere, where if girls have good relationships with their dad's, they seek for that in their mate, same goes for guy's seeking a girl like their mother) Interaction and cognitive cues were interesting as well. I have the type of personality where I feel comfortable with most people, although, sharing my heart with someone can be nerve racking, because of possibly being heart broken. And if someone give you that feeling and shares deep connections such as beliefs and values; then of course I'd consider them and throw the other cue's out the window.